10:30 AM GOT AT CALL FROM SOCIAL SERVICES
I received a surprise phone call from somebody called: Anna Leigh Purdue...who, apparently, is a Social Worker -(exactly where she got my phone number details from, I still don't know)-; she's a aprt of the: initial contact team for Adult Social Services. She called to ask me if I need any further help/or, am struggling after my mum's death.
I told her that everything is going pretty much ok.; except I'm struggling to pay all the bills/and, also, fix the leaking roof/collapsed plaster ceiling. She gave me a few helpful phone numbers to call...
800 316 9800
Debt payment plan
Priority service
Every pound counts
0207 926 5555
0800 254 0298
Age UK Support
0207 346 6800
(get benefit entitlements checked out/also, mention entitlement to a London taxi card)
She said she would phone me back, again...within a week or so...just to check up on if I'm doing ok still.
11:00 AM PAID THAMES WATER £50.00
I signed into my online Thames Water a/c.; and, it says the current balance is: £367.09. I paid £50.00 using my debit card. So, the current balance should now say: £317.09; however, the balance will be fully updated within 5 days time; so, I will need to sign in, again, in order to check that.
The next payment due is £50.00 on the 15 JAN 2020.
Tuesday 24 December 2019
Mon 231219 Went to Brighton...return ticket cost: £16.20
STAYED AT SHARON'S DURING THE NIGHT/MORNING
Yesterday, I stayed at my cousin Sharon's house.
They went out for a trip to London to see children's show: Shrek...with the children during the morning. I believe they went to Westminister in their car.
DECIDED TO GO AND VISIT BRIGHTON
I boarded the train at Kingswood station...; and, changed at East Croydon...with the intention to return back home to West Norwood.
However, on the opposite train platform...I noticed the train said it was headed towards Brighton. I had good memories about having visited Croydon before...though, I only did it just once, purely on a whim; therefore, I started thinking to myself...why not do it, again. So, I did...boarded the Brighton train.
We stopped at Gatwick airport...where I was able to see -through the train windows- the airplanes taking off. The train made two/or, possibly, three more stops...none of which were particularly significant to be worthwhile noting; then, eventually, we ended up at Brighton.
Unfortunately, my Oyster travel pass...doesn't actually work at Brighton; but, some conductor decided to let me through for FREE, anyway.
One of the first things I did when I got off at Brighton train station was find out where the toilets are...because I desperately needed to go take a leak. I asked one of the train ticket attendants...and, they said the toilets were off to the left side. I thought I might need to pay money to use the public toilets...but, fortunately, it was FREE. The next question I asked is where is the sea...and, I was told just keep on walking straight ahead. Sure enough when I walked far enough ahead...there is was sea. Wow! No buildings on the other side...just empty shoreline...and, water in between.
I had entered Greggs cake store...and, brought...
1 x Sausage roll
1 x Chocolate finger
1 x Cream finger
1 x Icing cake
...at a cost of £1.00 each.
Next, I went and brought some Rock sweets...in order to be able to remember the day. I brought...
4 x long rocks
2 x short rocks
4 x fudges
...I can't remember the exact price...; but, I went into 2 different shops, at least; and, one shop charged me £11.xx; and, another around £5.xx.
I also went into Burger King...after my visit had ended...and, brought a cheese burger costing 0.99p. -(Really, I just wanted to use their toilet...the day was freezing cold...and, that made me wish to take a leak, truly, most desperately.)
I walked along the beach front...across the pebbled shore...-(but, didn't go anywhere else/not like last time...when I travelled all along the shore both up and down...it was just too 'cold')-..I walked up to where the waves were breaking...and, then, I walked back out.
As soon as, I saw it was getting really dark...winter evening...I decided to leave and go back home, again; didn't wish to miss my return back train.
Going there was FREE...; but, I was not half so lucky coming back, however; I should have simply boarded the train...without asking to go buy a ticket, first; the return ticket cost was: £16.20...which, frankly, left me feeling totally 'shocked'...and, put some dampers on the day.
LATEST UPDATE
(When I awoke the next morning, I did a search to find out what is the cost to a ticket to Brighton going from East Croydon? Answer confirmed: £16.20.)
Yesterday, I stayed at my cousin Sharon's house.
They went out for a trip to London to see children's show: Shrek...with the children during the morning. I believe they went to Westminister in their car.
DECIDED TO GO AND VISIT BRIGHTON
I boarded the train at Kingswood station...; and, changed at East Croydon...with the intention to return back home to West Norwood.
However, on the opposite train platform...I noticed the train said it was headed towards Brighton. I had good memories about having visited Croydon before...though, I only did it just once, purely on a whim; therefore, I started thinking to myself...why not do it, again. So, I did...boarded the Brighton train.
We stopped at Gatwick airport...where I was able to see -through the train windows- the airplanes taking off. The train made two/or, possibly, three more stops...none of which were particularly significant to be worthwhile noting; then, eventually, we ended up at Brighton.
Unfortunately, my Oyster travel pass...doesn't actually work at Brighton; but, some conductor decided to let me through for FREE, anyway.
One of the first things I did when I got off at Brighton train station was find out where the toilets are...because I desperately needed to go take a leak. I asked one of the train ticket attendants...and, they said the toilets were off to the left side. I thought I might need to pay money to use the public toilets...but, fortunately, it was FREE. The next question I asked is where is the sea...and, I was told just keep on walking straight ahead. Sure enough when I walked far enough ahead...there is was sea. Wow! No buildings on the other side...just empty shoreline...and, water in between.
I had entered Greggs cake store...and, brought...
1 x Sausage roll
1 x Chocolate finger
1 x Cream finger
1 x Icing cake
...at a cost of £1.00 each.
Next, I went and brought some Rock sweets...in order to be able to remember the day. I brought...
4 x long rocks
2 x short rocks
4 x fudges
...I can't remember the exact price...; but, I went into 2 different shops, at least; and, one shop charged me £11.xx; and, another around £5.xx.
I also went into Burger King...after my visit had ended...and, brought a cheese burger costing 0.99p. -(Really, I just wanted to use their toilet...the day was freezing cold...and, that made me wish to take a leak, truly, most desperately.)
I walked along the beach front...across the pebbled shore...-(but, didn't go anywhere else/not like last time...when I travelled all along the shore both up and down...it was just too 'cold')-..I walked up to where the waves were breaking...and, then, I walked back out.
As soon as, I saw it was getting really dark...winter evening...I decided to leave and go back home, again; didn't wish to miss my return back train.
Going there was FREE...; but, I was not half so lucky coming back, however; I should have simply boarded the train...without asking to go buy a ticket, first; the return ticket cost was: £16.20...which, frankly, left me feeling totally 'shocked'...and, put some dampers on the day.
LATEST UPDATE
(When I awoke the next morning, I did a search to find out what is the cost to a ticket to Brighton going from East Croydon? Answer confirmed: £16.20.)
Monday 9 December 2019
Notes: 28th Nov-7th Dec
Obviously, a lot of things did happen in between: 28th November up to 7th December which I did not record here.
These things included...
- Registering the death/obtaining 3 copies of the Death Certificate.
- Contacting the Funeral Directors, Yeatman's/(who also arranged my aunts funeral)
- Sending in 2 green forms to the Funeral Directors...so that they can go and collect my mum's body from Lewisham Hospital morgue; and, embalm it.
- Getting an affidavit form to sign by a lawyer...which gives permission for the grave to be touched...as there are two large 30 to 40 foot trees growing there which will need to be cut down before any funeral can take place.
- Going to visit the Allen Head's pub...at the corner of West Norwood Cemetary...Robson Road...where I met a fellow Paxton Green Time Bank member called, Rob...says he is a PGTB Trustee...I think, he runs that particular pub. We arranged, later on, to call him back...and, have The Wake there...as opposed to choosing any other local pub: The Rosendale/North Wood/-etc.
-etc.
I have stayed both here at home...and, also, gone and slept for a number of nights inside of my cousin Sharon's house(met there new cat: Geoffrey).
I much prefer staying inside of my own home...;which is, mainly, because that's what I'm most used to doing; also, I feel a hell of a lot more comfortable sleeping in of my own bed...rather than anybody else's. My cousins are very warm, friendly, and, polite...and, I'm sure, are really 'good minded' towards me...furthermore, I get along extremely well with their 3 children; but, I myself do feel I've been imposing myself on them, quite unnecessarily. An awful lot of things I'm capable of doing on my own. However, I do very deeply appreciate all of the help they have given me.
At one point we -me/and, Sharon- went and visited Millicent and Trevor inside of their home; and, we had a long conversation about my mum's death. I can't remember now exactly what day that was...maybe, last Friday/Saturday evening.
I went and visited the grave, I believe, it was Saturday 6th Dec 2019; to take photos...as proof...before anyone does any further work on it...taking close up/medium/and, long range shots...around 100+ photos altogether...on my iPad. I also stopped there to say a prayer or two; and, have a chat with my aunt who already lies there.
In fact, a lot of things I seem to have forgotten...just too many things been happening together, all at once...that's why I didn't choose to write about them.
These things included...
- Registering the death/obtaining 3 copies of the Death Certificate.
- Contacting the Funeral Directors, Yeatman's/(who also arranged my aunts funeral)
- Sending in 2 green forms to the Funeral Directors...so that they can go and collect my mum's body from Lewisham Hospital morgue; and, embalm it.
- Getting an affidavit form to sign by a lawyer...which gives permission for the grave to be touched...as there are two large 30 to 40 foot trees growing there which will need to be cut down before any funeral can take place.
- Going to visit the Allen Head's pub...at the corner of West Norwood Cemetary...Robson Road...where I met a fellow Paxton Green Time Bank member called, Rob...says he is a PGTB Trustee...I think, he runs that particular pub. We arranged, later on, to call him back...and, have The Wake there...as opposed to choosing any other local pub: The Rosendale/North Wood/-etc.
-etc.
I have stayed both here at home...and, also, gone and slept for a number of nights inside of my cousin Sharon's house(met there new cat: Geoffrey).
I much prefer staying inside of my own home...;which is, mainly, because that's what I'm most used to doing; also, I feel a hell of a lot more comfortable sleeping in of my own bed...rather than anybody else's. My cousins are very warm, friendly, and, polite...and, I'm sure, are really 'good minded' towards me...furthermore, I get along extremely well with their 3 children; but, I myself do feel I've been imposing myself on them, quite unnecessarily. An awful lot of things I'm capable of doing on my own. However, I do very deeply appreciate all of the help they have given me.
At one point we -me/and, Sharon- went and visited Millicent and Trevor inside of their home; and, we had a long conversation about my mum's death. I can't remember now exactly what day that was...maybe, last Friday/Saturday evening.
I went and visited the grave, I believe, it was Saturday 6th Dec 2019; to take photos...as proof...before anyone does any further work on it...taking close up/medium/and, long range shots...around 100+ photos altogether...on my iPad. I also stopped there to say a prayer or two; and, have a chat with my aunt who already lies there.
In fact, a lot of things I seem to have forgotten...just too many things been happening together, all at once...that's why I didn't choose to write about them.
Mon 091219 Millicent phone call/phoned Floyd(not in/phoned me back, later)/Phoned Gary(left 2 answer machine messages)
1 PM MILLICENT PHONED ME
I got a phone call from my cousin, Millicent. She said, tomorrow, we should go and do some shopping to dress my mum; to which I agreed.
I told her I had rung other people to tell them about my mum's death.
I also spoke with my childhood friend, David Blackwood; and, he said he would call, Gary; but, that Gary had not called me, yet. I told her, when I speak to Gary...I will request that he take his things out of my mums flat. She replied to me, you can ask the question. However, because, she was still at work...I didn't bother to pursue the conversation too long.
21:00 PHONE FLOYD/WIFE SHIRLEY ANSWERED/TOOK MY NUMBER TO PHONE ME BACK
Floyd, left his phone numbers...home/mobile on my answer machine...saying I should call him back.
I phoned Floyd; but, apparently, he must have been really busy doing something else; because when Shirley, his wife, called him, repeatedly...there was no answer.
We both exchanged a few words about my mum; then, I left her both my name/phone number; then, told her...Floyd can phone me back, later on.
21:12 PHONED GARY/NO ANSWER/LEFT ANSWER MACHINE MESSAGE
I tried phoning Gary three times on his mobile phone; -(David Blackwood, gave me his number, yesterday)-; the first time there was no reply...instead, the phone just went silent(maybe, he picked it up...but, after realising it's me...decided not to talk). I phoned back, again; and, left 2 answer machine messages...
1. My mum died at Lewisham Hospital on the 27th of November 2019.
2. He should come and collect his property from Beckett House; because I got it touch with Centre 70 in West Norwood...and, they explained that whatever goods are left behind the council will seize it; and, then, dispose of it how they please...if they can't get in contact with the property owner.
Also, please, inform the rest of the family members.
21:40 PM FLOYD PHONED/I ASKED HIM TO DO A SPEECH...HE SAID, YES
Floyd phoned me back, eventually; and, I told him the news. He gave his sympathy. We spoke about Mr. Blackwood/Mrs. Blackwood; and, also, about my own family.
We spoke about the situation with Gary; and, Floyd said he's not too sure where Gary's head is...?
I explained to him the funeral date is set for the 3rd Jan 2020. However, we still are not sure...as two tall trees, 30 to 40 foot in length, need cutting down, first. So, we might need to set a later date than that.
Eventually, I asked him if he would like to do a speech at the funeral; and, he said, yes, it would be a honour.
21:48 PM PHONED SHARON TO UPDATE HER WHAT THE CURRENT SITUATION IS
I phoned Sharon...spoke to the answer machine...they must have gone to bed. Told her I'm going out with Millicent tomorrow to get some clothes for my mum.
I also told her that I had spoke to Floyd; that he said he would be willing to do a speech.
Finally, I told her that I had got Gary's phone number from David Blackwood; and, so, I had phoned him to say my mum had died/where/when...; and, also, that he should come an collect his clothes from Beckett House...otherwise the Council will claim it.
I got a phone call from my cousin, Millicent. She said, tomorrow, we should go and do some shopping to dress my mum; to which I agreed.
I told her I had rung other people to tell them about my mum's death.
I also spoke with my childhood friend, David Blackwood; and, he said he would call, Gary; but, that Gary had not called me, yet. I told her, when I speak to Gary...I will request that he take his things out of my mums flat. She replied to me, you can ask the question. However, because, she was still at work...I didn't bother to pursue the conversation too long.
21:00 PHONE FLOYD/WIFE SHIRLEY ANSWERED/TOOK MY NUMBER TO PHONE ME BACK
Floyd, left his phone numbers...home/mobile on my answer machine...saying I should call him back.
I phoned Floyd; but, apparently, he must have been really busy doing something else; because when Shirley, his wife, called him, repeatedly...there was no answer.
We both exchanged a few words about my mum; then, I left her both my name/phone number; then, told her...Floyd can phone me back, later on.
21:12 PHONED GARY/NO ANSWER/LEFT ANSWER MACHINE MESSAGE
I tried phoning Gary three times on his mobile phone; -(David Blackwood, gave me his number, yesterday)-; the first time there was no reply...instead, the phone just went silent(maybe, he picked it up...but, after realising it's me...decided not to talk). I phoned back, again; and, left 2 answer machine messages...
1. My mum died at Lewisham Hospital on the 27th of November 2019.
2. He should come and collect his property from Beckett House; because I got it touch with Centre 70 in West Norwood...and, they explained that whatever goods are left behind the council will seize it; and, then, dispose of it how they please...if they can't get in contact with the property owner.
Also, please, inform the rest of the family members.
21:40 PM FLOYD PHONED/I ASKED HIM TO DO A SPEECH...HE SAID, YES
Floyd phoned me back, eventually; and, I told him the news. He gave his sympathy. We spoke about Mr. Blackwood/Mrs. Blackwood; and, also, about my own family.
We spoke about the situation with Gary; and, Floyd said he's not too sure where Gary's head is...?
I explained to him the funeral date is set for the 3rd Jan 2020. However, we still are not sure...as two tall trees, 30 to 40 foot in length, need cutting down, first. So, we might need to set a later date than that.
Eventually, I asked him if he would like to do a speech at the funeral; and, he said, yes, it would be a honour.
21:48 PM PHONED SHARON TO UPDATE HER WHAT THE CURRENT SITUATION IS
I phoned Sharon...spoke to the answer machine...they must have gone to bed. Told her I'm going out with Millicent tomorrow to get some clothes for my mum.
I also told her that I had spoke to Floyd; that he said he would be willing to do a speech.
Finally, I told her that I had got Gary's phone number from David Blackwood; and, so, I had phoned him to say my mum had died/where/when...; and, also, that he should come an collect his clothes from Beckett House...otherwise the Council will claim it.
Sun 081119 Contacted family/friends about mum's death.../Gary, still to go and collect his things from my mum's flat...
10 PM MADE PHONE CALLS INFORMING OTHERS ABOUT MY MUMS DEATH/UPCOING FUNERAL
Honestly, I was really dreading having to go make phone calls about such a horrible subject...; but, eventually, I realised I would have no other choice but to go and contact family/friends about my mum's death. So, I went and got the 'red' phonebook...which is used to store all of the phone numbers/addresses/-etc.
The first friends I contacted was the Blackwood family...who used to babysit me from when I was very young.
- I phoned the old Mrs. Blackwood -(now died)- phone number; but, although it was ringing...nobody answered; nor was there any answer machine to leave messages.
- I phoned Winnie...but, she wasn't home; so, I left a message on her answer machine. She phoned me back, later; and, we chatted for a while. Her suggestion is I should take in tenants to help pay the bills. I objected that I dislike having to live with strangers.
- I phoned Floyd...but, that phone number no longer worked.
- I phoned David...he answered me...; and, suggested if the rest of the family are likely to give you any problems; then, go and get some legal advice. (David also gave me Gary's mobile phone number to call.)
Next, I searched to find any other friends...
- I phoned Richard...Denis (died young/heart problems) wife answered. She said both Mr. & Mrs. Richard are not keeping too well; Mrs. Richard is managing relatively ok; but, Mr. Richard...now aged 97 is not so well...(deaf); also, he might be too infirm to attend any funeral. I left them my phone number details/and, also, name; so they can get it contact whenever they want.
- I phoned Sharon Smith...she answered the phone...thinking it was a social call; but, I went on to explain this call is to tell them about an upcoming funeral. She said I should leave the details on Facebook. I ended the call with give my regards to your mum/and, sister Judy.
- I phoned the Knight sisters; no answer on either number called(phone number too old, I guess).
- I phone Sylvie/Vie Williams/Mrs. Patterson/-etc. no answer (number too old)
Eventually, I reached the end of the phone book; and, frankly, was glad to...because, now, that's one task I don't have worry about too much longer.
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MY COUSIN, GARY, STILL DOESN'T SEEM TO BE WILLING TO MOVE HIS THINGS OUT OF MY MUM'S FLAT
What I do have to worry about is, Gary...who still has left his stuff inside of my mum's flat...it must be 7 bags full of clothes.../together with 2 or 3 suitcases; if he doesn't call me, soon...then, I will be 'forced' to go and call him; and, if he then decides not to go and collect his things...then, that will leave me with just 3 possible choices...
1. Leave his things there for the council to come and collect
2. Take his things to my home to store, instead/(I don't want to do that at all; as I don't want Gary to visit me at home).
3. Go and dump his stuff. Which I would never do...partly, due to family loyalty(yes, it's a really strange thing...even though we no longer talk....yet, I can't forget there used to be good times between us, too); ...and, partly because I believe if I did do that...he would shoot me!
Most unfortunately, you can choose who your friends are...; but, you can't choose who your family is!
The guy is dangerous, violent, and, extremely jealous -(I see him as a Narcissistic Psychopath...people like that love themselves; but, have absolute no respect for others)-; I don't believe he has any good intentions towards me...so, I fear what he might do, next...? Most certainly, I wouldn't put it past him.../or, his equally jealous and bad minded sister, Merlene...to get me bumped off...just so that they can get to inherit the house. For these same reasons, I'm going to make sure I write a Will which excludes them from inheriting either my goods/or, property.
Honestly, I was really dreading having to go make phone calls about such a horrible subject...; but, eventually, I realised I would have no other choice but to go and contact family/friends about my mum's death. So, I went and got the 'red' phonebook...which is used to store all of the phone numbers/addresses/-etc.
The first friends I contacted was the Blackwood family...who used to babysit me from when I was very young.
- I phoned the old Mrs. Blackwood -(now died)- phone number; but, although it was ringing...nobody answered; nor was there any answer machine to leave messages.
- I phoned Winnie...but, she wasn't home; so, I left a message on her answer machine. She phoned me back, later; and, we chatted for a while. Her suggestion is I should take in tenants to help pay the bills. I objected that I dislike having to live with strangers.
- I phoned Floyd...but, that phone number no longer worked.
- I phoned David...he answered me...; and, suggested if the rest of the family are likely to give you any problems; then, go and get some legal advice. (David also gave me Gary's mobile phone number to call.)
Next, I searched to find any other friends...
- I phoned Richard...Denis (died young/heart problems) wife answered. She said both Mr. & Mrs. Richard are not keeping too well; Mrs. Richard is managing relatively ok; but, Mr. Richard...now aged 97 is not so well...(deaf); also, he might be too infirm to attend any funeral. I left them my phone number details/and, also, name; so they can get it contact whenever they want.
- I phoned Sharon Smith...she answered the phone...thinking it was a social call; but, I went on to explain this call is to tell them about an upcoming funeral. She said I should leave the details on Facebook. I ended the call with give my regards to your mum/and, sister Judy.
- I phoned the Knight sisters; no answer on either number called(phone number too old, I guess).
- I phone Sylvie/Vie Williams/Mrs. Patterson/-etc. no answer (number too old)
Eventually, I reached the end of the phone book; and, frankly, was glad to...because, now, that's one task I don't have worry about too much longer.
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MY COUSIN, GARY, STILL DOESN'T SEEM TO BE WILLING TO MOVE HIS THINGS OUT OF MY MUM'S FLAT
What I do have to worry about is, Gary...who still has left his stuff inside of my mum's flat...it must be 7 bags full of clothes.../together with 2 or 3 suitcases; if he doesn't call me, soon...then, I will be 'forced' to go and call him; and, if he then decides not to go and collect his things...then, that will leave me with just 3 possible choices...
1. Leave his things there for the council to come and collect
2. Take his things to my home to store, instead/(I don't want to do that at all; as I don't want Gary to visit me at home).
3. Go and dump his stuff. Which I would never do...partly, due to family loyalty(yes, it's a really strange thing...even though we no longer talk....yet, I can't forget there used to be good times between us, too); ...and, partly because I believe if I did do that...he would shoot me!
Most unfortunately, you can choose who your friends are...; but, you can't choose who your family is!
The guy is dangerous, violent, and, extremely jealous -(I see him as a Narcissistic Psychopath...people like that love themselves; but, have absolute no respect for others)-; I don't believe he has any good intentions towards me...so, I fear what he might do, next...? Most certainly, I wouldn't put it past him.../or, his equally jealous and bad minded sister, Merlene...to get me bumped off...just so that they can get to inherit the house. For these same reasons, I'm going to make sure I write a Will which excludes them from inheriting either my goods/or, property.
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